Trust the process

Have you ever been in a situation when you worked very hard for something and it just wouldn’t happen? Out of frustration, you let it rest. Some time goes by and then something even better comes along out of the blue. It happens to me all the time… Why? I trust the process, and I don’t get particularly attached to the outcome.

It happened when I was googling coaching courses for months and kept getting lost in the acronyms and one day, a coaching academy called me back and the following day I was enrolled. It happened when I had an assignment to submit that for some reason I didn’t understand and the next morning I got it.

When I moved to Tanzania in 2010, I realised much later that the purpose was to understand who I am. I didn’t truly know until then why I had decided to move.

I am moving to Sweden sometime this year and I don’t know what the outcome of that decision will be. I know, feel and see Sweden is where I need to be for the next phase of my life and all I need to focus on is the next step: leaving Kenya and making my way North.

I often feel like I am in a fog (the comforting and embracing kind) and only my next few steps are crystal clear. The fog lifts the day I can look back and understand how the dots connect. It might take hours, it might take years. The path continues and it might get foggy again. I just keep moving forward and trust the process.

I’ve learned to be comfortable with the fog and found relief in not being attached to the outcome. It gives me the opportunity to not miss out on something even better that might be put on my path.

Some might argue, “Are you kidding? I don’t have time to wait until it falls in my lap!” and you’re absolutely right, it is very unlikely it will.

If something is important to me, I make sure I give myself time to work on it. I think about it some time in advance, pen keywords down, doodle, sketch, make it messy and creative. That’s where my unconscious works, where I connect dots I hadn’t connected before and where my creative juices flow, even if just one drop at a time. And when I feel ready, all the pieces fall nicely into place.

Listen to that voice inside of you, it knows what’s best for you.